Most of the time, we are the bad friends we complain about

Nollywood actress, Toyin Abraham, on Wednesday, shared an insight about friendship with her followers on Instagram.

Abraham, who was recognised in two categories at the 2021 Eko Star Film and TV awards this week, noted that most people avoid making friends because they believe friends are bad without realizing they are the bad friends they complain about.

According to her, humans are naturally flawed and imperfect so instead of focusing on pointing out each other’s weaknesses, we should hold each other with grace and compassion.

Read her full post below,

“You complain that friends are bad and so you don’t want to have friends. I complain that friends are bad and so, I’d rather do without them. But honestly, who are these bad friends that make us all want to do away with friendships if not us all? Ṣé ẹ fẹ́ gbọ́ òótọ́, most of the time we are the bad friends we all complain about. All of us are guilty in one way or other. We’ve been a bad friend to somebody at one point or the other. So, if we avoid, cancel or run away from everyone who has offended us at one point or the other, what do we do with ourselves?

“I think it is easier to point out other people’s flaws than it is to accept that we are all flawed humans in some way. And so, when we expect perfection from one another, we ruin the beauty of friendships. Because ẹ wò ó, ká má parọ́, we all have our good and bad sides and it is never realistic to think that we can experience people without their flaws. ⁣
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“So, rather than avoiding one another, rubbishing one another, exposing our weaknesses and publicising our offences, hoping it would create the balance and stability we desire in our friendships and shield us from being hurt by “people”, let us hold one another with grace and compassion instead. It is only then that it becomes possible to lovingly hold one another accountable and help each other grow into our best selves! Igi kan kò lè dá igbó ṣe, ká fi ọwọ́ w’ẹwọ́ ni ọwọ́ fí ń mọ́.”

See her post below,

https://www.instagram.com/p/CNpNpkWMAwy/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_mid=0499EBC6-A7B7-4022-8924-EBAEA2C51038